8/16/2014

Building excellence ongoing..

I recently went through a flurry of managerial and leadership trainings. What I like about them is they make you introspect..a lot. Not that I don't do it otherwise, but judging yourself as a third party always helps. As we all know, we have most of the answers within, and listening to them requires some level of detachment yet empathy to ourselves. Each one of us is a blend of so many unique traits, that being just another common person is also uncommon. While we classify several of them as strength and weakness, they are inter convertible. The fact that we are passionate about a vision also makes us defensive and a little irrational about them once in a while. The fact that someone is determined and resolute also results in stubbornness. If some one is stoic and calm, they can come across as too boring or uninspiring at some occasions.

However, what doesn't get covered and is the most difficult part of leadership --relentless drive towards excellence. The reason is perhaps that it is not a formula, and no framework or 2/2 matrix can ever explain excellence. In fact, that again is very perception driven at times. People have very different ideas of how to define excellence and examples of people who have lived up to those standards. It is not an easy answer, but a personalized view. However, that is the most critical  aspect which will determine our final coordinates. Is it driven by wisdom, influence, successful career with numbers, personal effectiveness in balancing life, gaining respect and love or path breaking ideas or brilliant implementation of ideas that were floating all around?

One key aspect that I see important in defining this, is that it is a moving goal post, and you decide the destination. It cannot be static. It can be governed by the external environment, or your own aspirations, but it has to be dynamic. People whom I find inspiring in different areas have redefined their spaces and influenced so many lives just by putting their best in whatever they did. We definitely cannot change the entire world single handedly, but somehow I have begun to believe that if we play our role with utmost dedication and commitment, it snowballs into touching so many lives without us knowing. If the intent is to make a difference and refine ourselves everyday in how we do our work, it does make a difference not only to ourselves, but to millions of people around us. The deal is- we need to set new standards for ourselves and continue working for them like a student of our skill. The day we deem ourselves to be bigger than our art, the reverse loop may set in.

When Sachin showcased His prowess on the cricket field, he created a whole new generation of cricketers in so many homes, and so many people were inspired with his humility, his dedication and how reliability became a virtue we wanted to stand for. So many times we were given his example by my father- sachin's father told him, "do whatever you want to, but be sure that you excel" . It became our quote. I can say the same for the shooters, wrestlers that have won medals as well. One such person has the capability to influence a generation and also as the mass builds, need to facilitate it increases. This to me, is excellence.

Thee is one clear difference between success and excellence in terms of how they are referred to. Both are revered and loved, but statistics is usually the measure used to define success while excellence is measured by the impact it creates and how the art went through the transformation itself. Be it Steve jobs, Sachin, Rafi, Amitabh Bachchan, Hrishikesh Mukherjee, Tata, they transformed the space in which they worked and touched the lives of so many people and continued with humility of best servant to their art and not masters. I cannot say the same for everyone who is successful, mainly because they chose to live in the past glories or couldn't accept stardom as mere effect of their perseverance.


7/28/2014

Freedom -how I define it

I have been thinking of this long since there have been so many movies celebrating freedom  in various ways. Somehow I see an inherent common thread in all of them and people connecting to these themes way more often. That is breaking free from invisible shackles of rules defined by someone else for you, breaking free from a good boy/ girl image to try something outrageous  and feeling emancipated.  I wonder do we really feel so tied up in our life that thrill and adventure define happiness, liveliness and absolute freedom for us. This is difficult for me to understand why freedom cannot define the way you live every day, every moment, do what you want, say what you want , enjoy everything around you, and keeping yourself fully in control of your wishes and aspirations. When I see this dependence on external stimuli that control our happiness and will (alcohol, travel, adventure, momentary thrills), it makes me feel somewhat puzzled. No doubt they add some zing to everyday routine and feel good, but if they start defining our idea of freedom,  there is a problem.

To me, freedom is how I decide for myself in all spheres of life everyday that I live and holding myself accountable for my decisions and not repenting for them. I want to be completely in control of my life, the choices that I make, without any inhibitions. Yes there will be some choices that are ingrained into us due to values that we acquire and some forced upon us in a way due to external circumstances, but we can question them to identify their relevance for the person that we are. We can say no if we must and pick our choices in more areas that are more important to us. That is freedom to me. If I can say that I am happy about my choices and they were mine without any regrets, I am free. If I do not need to compare my life with my peer group to decide how good I am doing, I am free. If I do not have to rely on external opinions about my choices and my value and perception, I am free. If I live on my terms, my values and hold my needs in high esteem without 
caring to tweak them to please others, I am free.

Maybe this genre of movies/ ideas turns me off because I feel that freedom is rated above values and goodness in general. Moreover, there is usually a cliché in all such scenarios where the character who is doing well- off, studious, and more sincere is shown as inhibited or restricting their freedom as the price paid. They were following a rule book which was not theirs. Somehow I do feel that I have been following most of these rules and I still do, but I completely disagree with the representation. I have been more studious, because I loved reading and learning, I got married in my first relationship because I chose to, not because I had to get married. I did MBA and then a job and both were my decisions, I never bunked classes or copied in school/ college, because I hated cheating of any kind. Even If I get nothing better than those who did, I will never regret my decisions or want to change anything. I do a job and I love what I do and I go to office everyday with excitement and looking forward to the day, not because I have to earn some money. Obviously I want to earn money but that does not define my happiness at work. I chose my field of work and I am happy with all of my choices in personal and professional circle. I do not worship at all or follow any ritual associated with any event because I do not believe in them. I love God for how he/ she has supported me in all odds and feel gratitude for the people in my life everyday. I am happy and I am free and yes I never needed to emancipate myself through any external stimuli. Yes, I do travel and enjoy with people around but I can enjoy with nobody around almost as much. That is freedom for me.